These are three words which I have been thinking of all week!!

 This week has been a very busy week for me at work a 3 day has seemed longer then the normal week lol. I like keeping busy but these three words have been buzzing in my head all week and what I think about them. Have been learning many lessons so hope you at least read what I have to say as your take may differ!!

Selfishness- I put a status on my facebook last month "selfishness breeds ugliness". I am not sure where I came up with that one lol. However that word is something I have been thinking alot about. We are all capable of being selfish its all in us and anyone who says they aren't selfish look in the mirror next time you say that lol!! Have you ever sat on train or bus and seen someone who may need that seat more then you but you but not got up!! That doesn't make you a bad person lol but it is selfish. In the same way we may expect  alot from family or loved ones like an expensive gift. Or giving yourself a bigger portion of the dessert you made but a smaller piece to someone else, the list goes on. However I have realised that people can also be selfish in a work context as well not looking out for the welfare of your colleagues and seeing your own needs ahead of theirs is also selfish. Whatever your interpretation of this word its around us all the time and ultimately everyday. 

 Judgement - To be judged by a court of law is one thing but to be judged by others is a regular occurrence. We are judged everyday of our lives. Whether this be the clothes we wear, the university we attend or the area we live in. Its something we have to live with. Everyone handles it differently. For me what makes me annoyed about this word is that we sometimes feel its ok to judge someone without knowing all the facts.  We also all make judgements about others also. That fact that we make a judgement about someone within the first 5 seconds we meet them is quite sad!! This may depend on the individual I always like to give people the benefit of the doubt. Perhaps this makes me nice but I would rather be that then make a false judgement about someone. I really do believe we can learn something from everyone we meet even if they aren't our cup of tea. 

Genuineness - Honesty is something which is very important to me as a person. I believe in order to be honest however you also need to be Genuine with it. I have noticed not just this week but for a long time that so many people pretend to be someone they just aren't. Why can't people be open and honest and show their genuine selves. I have noticed that many people seem to hiding behind a mask that they almost don't want to reveal. What is so bad that they can't be true to themselves and others around them? Its also made me realise I have met many people in my but the number of genuine  people I have met and when I say that I mean very genuine and loyal is a number that can be counted on hands!!

Check out the Careerstylist website

Please check out this really fab website out  http://www.thecareerstylist.com/

This is a really positive website that I came across on twitter. There are some really great videos and tips that may help others think about what they really want from their lives and if they need to change anything!!

I also went on a coaching session with Beth who runs this website. It was a really empowering experience for me. Since I had my session with her I have been more focused about where I want to be and how I can actually get there. If you feel stuck by anything then you should see if coaching and the tips that are on this website could help you. It's really changed how I see myself as I was letting a lack of self belief in my abilities hold me back!! Since I have had this experience I feel that I can really do what I want to and have so much more belief in my capabilities.

It may sound to good to be true but if you take this on with an open mind as I always do with most things, you may be pleasantly surprised. I wanted to tell others about this because its really impacted on me in a good way so wanted to share!! Even if you aren't interested in her coaching this website is such a great resource and should be promoted. :)!!

Have a little respect!!

Respect can mean many different things to many different people. To me respect is about making sure you make time for other people and you respect who they are as an individual and not try to change them. People will always be judgemental you can't stay about from that but as long as you respect the people who show you love and support that should be the most important thing!!

It is also important to have respect for yourself if you don't value yourself as a person and look at all the qualities you have how can you be expected to respect anyone else. Society says that many of the youth of today don't respect their elders and maybe this is partly true. However if you aren't taught to show care and respect for others how can learn respect!! Many young people don't feel teachers care for them and so their attitude is I have no right to show any respect.This mentality isn't right but it is how many youngsters of today feel.

I am currently reading Martin Luther King's autobiography it is a very interesting read and the theme of respect is something which is evident whilst reading it. People didn't treat people equally durning that time and in some cases issues of inequality, racism and class and gender discrimination are still ongoing in some parts of the world. Respect for me is about seeing everyone as an individual person and fundamentally a human being. We should respect people's religious beliefs, sexuality and gender. Individual societies have different rules but if you show respect to others as people you should gain that respect in return.

Cyber bullying on Panaroma

Did anyone see the latest episode on cyber bullying that panorama broadcast earlier this week. If you didn't then watch it. Especially if you work with or have young teenagers and children. I would recommend watching it on BBC I player. Or even if you are a parent yourself. It was quite an eyeopener!!

Cyber bullying has been going on for a number of years and the media usually blames Facebook!! There's a surprise but the growth and emergence of all these websites like little gossip and form spring which I hadn't heard of until I saw Panorama the other day. Is showing how social networking can cause people to anonymously antongise a lot of young innocent people into share terror. Yes many of these documentaries are designed to make a solid point and can sometimes appear bias. However it also showed how some people called"Cyber Trolls" as they are termed, who obviously have alot of time on their hands cause chaos to some people's lives.

Just to add  that as much as we depend on social networks to share special moments and memories. It is now sometimes being abused and used vindictively by people who have no shame or integrity. So if you have a younger brother or sister or even a cousin on one of these networks i.e Bebo etc. It may be better to monitor how they use it. Facebook has privacy settings as those other networks i.e Twitter etc but these people are ruthless and have absolutely no mercy!! So be warned.

Orson Welles: A creative mind in cinema

Most recently I stumbled upon a memoir about Orson Welles this was written by his eldest daughter a Chris Welles Feder and before that I didn't know much about him. Expect that he was married once to the very beautiful and glamorous Rita Hayworth and he had been in a the very well known movie called Citizen Kane. This memoir portrays the journey of a little girl seeing her father as not only the famous star he was but as a creative genius and most importantly a human being!!

The book is written with such compassion and humility and it almost feels as though you are reading a film in itself not a real life story. Chris(Christopher) Orson Welles' daughter from his first marriage describes what it was like sharing her dad with not only other people but in fact the world itself. A wonderful example of this is of an event she describes when she is a young child of about  9 and is out to lunch with her father. During the lunch the precious time she has to spend with her father is invaded by some fellow restaurateurs who want his autograph. To which his daughter says "Autographs are stupid"

Through Chris's memoir it is interesting to observe that although she doesn't live with her father after his marriage to Rita Hayworth she fondly remembers the encounters she has with him and sometimes through the journey of the book this is sometimes years instead of months. The memoir itself journey's from her early childhood to after Orson Welles death. Much of the book is about Chris growing up and her journey but she always remembers her dad when she does visit him. The trip she describes in London where she meets Laurence Oliver and Vivien Leigh was bizarre to read as these people were considered the best of the best for their time.

There is a brilliant quote that I feel really captures Orson Welles's open mindedness. Although Welles himself didn't go to college he was a very knowledgeable and intelligent man who was happy to learn from others. 

"If you're curious by nature and willing to admit how little you know about anything,you'll spend your entire life educating yourself and do a far better job of it than any university"

One very interesting issue that stems though Chris's journey is that like her father she wanted to be an actor but her father wanted her to go to college. What's evident to me whilst reading the book at the beginning is that like many actors he choose acting but he never choose fame and this is something that is still occurring theme in Hollywood to this day.

What is really intriguing for me is for a man who was so famous and in fact well known in his industry he battled the fact that he didn't feel as appreciated for his own creative flair when he was alive. Citizen Kane is considered even today by many critics as one of the greatest movies ever made. Orson's first wife at the beginning of the book complained about where the money for his great work was actually going. Due to his creative flair he was always investing in projects he had passion for but not necessarily getting the effort he put into the projects back in a financial way. This shows he didn't really care if it was going to make him more money he just did it because he loved acting and directing. It seems like this passion has somewhat faded in this age but at least he did what he wanted to. 

Orson Welles died in1985 which was 26 years ago and a brilliant quote to sum up his legacy is something that said to his daughter shortly before he died  "Darling girl. they're gonna love me when I'm dead". Weirdly enough the film industry still talks about him to this day and among his films Citizen Kane, Third Man etc people do commend him for his unique talents. Most recently the film Me and Orson Welles although based on a book  is ultimately Welles inspired!! Through reading the memoir I see Welles's as a magician, actor, director, artist, father and human being but what comes across the most is he wasn't afraid of being creative.When I say human being I mean his daughter discovers along the way that her father did make mistakes along his life but the bond she shared with him was the most important thing at the end of it. This is something we can all learn from and maybe a favourable way of remembering him is "Orson Welles was one of the greatest creative forces of the twentieth century". Well if people are still talking about today and he is influencing directors even now he must of done something right :)!!

Amy Winehouse Tribute!!

It was really shocking to hear the news of such a talented musician and unique talent so I thought would give her tribute blog. For someone as young as her to have achieved what she did was truly amazing and so deserved. Among the awards she won including an Ivor Novello, Grammys and Brits she was recognised internationally and its such a shame we will not be able to see what else this notable talent had to offer. 

It was only last week I was listening to Back to Black one of my favourite Amy Winehouse songs. What strikes me even now about Amy is how she could of chosen to live anywhere in the world but she stuck to good old Camden in London. This shows how down to earth she was. My heart goes out to her family for whatever reason she has passed on I hope she has obtained peace now. The stories of her drug use and alcohol abuse isn't new but I do think the press gave her really hard time in the past few years.

R.I.P Amy your voice and talent will always remain with us as well as your songs. Please see video below doing what she did best!! 

Gaga or Not !!

I am not a lady gaga fan but I was watching MTV the other day randomly and happened to see the bad romance video. I admit I do like the song probably the only song of hers I like. Also cos the glee cast did a good version lol maybe cos I understood the lyrics finally cos when she sings it I can only half understand what she says!! Anyways whilst watching this video it got me thinking how can this woman be the topic of so many headlines and be such a cultural phenomenon. Is she pretending to be like that or is she really as gaga as she seems. Personally I don't get!! I mean maybe I am being a bit of a prude for a lady in a her late 20s but no way would I have been allowed to watch this video when I was about young teenager also I am not sure it would of been made. Its kinda scary with the monster like costumes and burning a bloke at the end. Don't get wrong I get what she's trying  to say but as a teenager I think it would confuse me more about the opposite sex maybe that's just me. Also many of her videos promote this message to hate men!! As they sometimes seem to be the enemy.

I do think she loves the controversy though she is definitely a attention seeker why else would you put a cola can in your hair right?? A lot of people have compared her to Madonna but to be honest she is no Madonna I actually think Madonna had raw talent but maybe that's just me. I am not saying Lady Gaga is talentless but it almost seems like she lives off the attention she gets from the media and deliberately does things that are off the wall to get people talking. Alot of people would say she is clever because she has got people talking right hey all publicity in America is good publicity and its seems to have worked for her. What gets to me about her is what is her influence doing the young people who are fans!!! I mean it almost seems like Lady Gaga is a bit of mirage. She seems unreal but she genuinely advocates herself as being like she is I really doubt that OK I am cynic but I am thinking about what her true appeal is??? The costumes in her videos are noteworthy and innovative and her music is different to current artists but what makes her so appealing to others. I mean telephone the song that song was number 1 for ages and I just don't understand why!!

It probably sounds like I am bad mouthing poor gaga a bit but I guess I am intrigued at how someone to me who is moderately talented is getting so much attention. Why are so many people simply Gaga over Lady Gaga personally I am getting feeling the appeal. Answers on a postcard please. 

Oh and maybe if Gaga was portrayed as a goody two shoes like she is below she wouldn't be as famous as she is!! Well its def got me thinking she def has talent here check it out the unseen lady gaga yes that really is her!!